You've probably dealt with the know it alls, the nose raisers and the toppers who top anything you got and then some. Maybe you've also seen those who should just get their garbage together and get a life.
I know. Speak for yourself. Right, Dr. Dennis? RIght. I've been on both sides of the coin, too, but...
Haven't we all?
You know if Relationships are one of the most important things in life, these behaviors need to be dealt with in the best way possible in our own situations.
First things first, it starts with self. Am I taking these closed hard stances? Am I mad all the time? Have I been acting like I know it all, being critical and using my tongue more than ears?
You know we're all mirrors of our relationships. How are they going?
Like it or not, studies show that having the open and 'Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have' attitude is superior to the critical & judgemental...
I have a reminder that goes off that asks me 3 questions everyday. One of those questions to myself is, "What could throw me off?" One thing that can sucker you in is a 'Hot Mess'! I've always heard, "Hurt people hurt people.
Try taking a deep breath, expressing that you hear the 'Hot Mess' in front of you or simply, "I hear you!", and feel their pain or simply saying, "I feel your pain.". Allow yourself to empathize to truly hear & feel. I mean who hasn't been Hurt or in a 'HOT' state before?
It's that simple. Don't tell someone how to fix something or be a solution. Simply try to BE a Good Ear & Feeler today!
There's POWER in empathy!
Let's get better at it!
Yours In Love & Learning,
Dr Howard Dennis