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You have read Romans 12 before. Someone put verse 2 on a coffee mug and handed it to you at a men's breakfast.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.

Good verse. It is where almost every man starts.

Paul did not start there.

Verse 1 comes first, and verse 1 is about your body

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice.

Body in verse 1. Mind in verse 2. In that order, on purpose.

I have spent over thirty years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. More than 410,000 visits, hands on real people. That is where I learned the order matters, and it is why I will not coach a man's thinking while his body is running on fumes. It does not hold. You have felt it not hold.

What it looks like in an ordinary week

You decide Sunday night that this is the week. You are going to be patient with your wife, present with your kids, focused at work.

By Wednesday at four in the afternoon ...

Dear God, forgive me of my wrongs, forgive those who've wronged me, help me forgive, help those forgive me that I've wronged and help me go forward accordingly. In Jesus Name I Pray.

Forgiveness & Mercy are Biblical & proven. When we extend it in our relationships the hormone oxytocin is released.  This is linked to extending our lives physically in years (more so in males than females).

How we converse and act towards each other doesn't need to be perfect, just infused with heavy doses of Mercy.  

While your knuckles are dragging on the ground, walk gently in this life with all its strife!

With Love

Dr Dennis

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